Sleeping together in the same bed is a matter of course for most couples. But what can you do if the other person disturbs your sleep? And do separate beds have to mean the end of romance and togetherness?
Being a couple, living and living together, but sleeping alone in separate beds? For many couples, this is still unimaginable and even a sign of an incipient relationship crisis. One thing is certain: in our society, the shared bedroom is an emotionally charged topic that is firmly anchored in the notions of a healthy relationship or married life.
The question is rather: How much is a deep and restful sleep worth to me?
More and more couples are realising that their sleep rhythms are simply too different. The positives of togetherness are overshadowed by the negatives of sleeplessness and restlessness. The result is that one partner usually has trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, wakes up annoyed in the morning and carries the stress further into the relationship. The feeling of cosiness and closeness to the other person is then overshadowed by this negative experience. This can have health consequences ranging from nervous tension to a weakened immune system.
Sleeping together or alone? As different as every person and every couple is, the answer can be just as different. There is no blanket yes or no, just a common denominator: restful sleep should be guaranteed for both partners and everyone should feel comfortable.
Different sleep patterns can disrupt sleep
Only a few couples have congruent or even similar sleep patterns. Most of them disturb each other’s sleep. One person pulls the covers away, wants to read or watch TV for a long time, while the other tosses and turns in their sleep or snores. These are just a few examples of disruptions to a partner’s sleep. Even smaller factors can have a big impact and really spoil our night’s sleep.
What does sleep research say?
It has found that couples sleep better the more space they have. They wake up less often and feel much more relaxed the next morning – a strong argument in favour of separate bedrooms.
Every couple has to decide for themselves whether to sleep together or not. The important thing is what is best for both partners to guarantee a healthy and restful night’s sleep. Perhaps you should let go of the idea that your happiness as a couple depends on sleeping together in favour of your own health. And our slogan also applies to this ‘emotional’ topic: ‘A GOOD DAY BEGINS AT NIGHT!’
